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Sexual Predator over in Townhouses

Discussion in 'Broadlands Community Issues' started by Thundercleese, Feb 8, 2009.

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  1. flynnibus

    flynnibus Well-Known Member Forum Staff

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    Depends on what you are discussing. The people involved or the criminal records. People here were focusing on the people involved - including making up their own labels for said people. As such, the discussion evolved to those involved, which lead to the discussion of what the involvement was. Then we end up with a relationship between two people.. not one person. As such, the discussion involved both parties not just one.
     
  2. serendipity

    serendipity New Member

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    Flynnibus: There is such a mean spiritedness in your posts and an arrogance that makes it frustrating to continue to even to respond to you. The above post was completely uncalled for.

    Such posts have become your trademark and I don't know what you get out of them.

    Don't mistake people stopping an exchange on this or any thread for inability to continue a discussion, it's just ridiculous sometimes to bother because you will never acknowledge that anyone has a point to make besides yourself. Talk about needing to step away from yourself?!

    I have watched over the years a number of people express the same frustration that I feel with how you post. In fact, it's why it took me so long to decide to become a participant in these forums. Your need to dominate and be right is intimidating to many and I'm suspect that gives you satisfaction. At the end of the day what is that though? This last one does it for me. You just seem to be sermonizing as if you and only you have the "right" answers. Others actually do have valid points and people can disagree without you being so nasty. I'm sure you'll trash all over me now.
     
  3. flynnibus

    flynnibus Well-Known Member Forum Staff

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    It's called a discussion - if you want others to listen to you - you should substantiate your points and qualify them. Some people don't like their points being exposed for what they are and feel attacked if someone challenges their point. If they want to have a one-person discussion - they should create a blog, not post on a discussion forum.

    If you make a convincing argument, then you will sway others. If not, others will continue to call you out when you repeat yourself.

    If you come out swinging like some posters do - they generally get the same type of response back. The ironic ones are those who can't take what they dish out and then play the victim. Those are always good for a laugh.

    If you paint with broad generalizations - you will tend to be called out.

    If you try to pull some 'I didn't do it' like Fritz's last post... your previous posts will be shown back to you.

    If you can't handle your own words coming back to you - then you should review then before posting them. You shouldn't ever post anything you aren't willing to come back to you later.

    These are all general rules of the road when you post on the Internet. You can pin it on me if you want - but it's all the same regardless. Don't say what you aren't willing to say to someone's face and don't say anything you aren't willing to face later.
     
  4. serendipity

    serendipity New Member

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    I haven't and wouldn't. I have no problem with my posts. I stand behind my comments and I have made every attempt to do so respectfully. I agree that sometimes humor gets misinterpreted (like when I was teasing Ozgood and he did not take it the way that I genuinely intended). But that's not the case here. I do have a problem with how you post. It's bullyish. And you know what they say about bullies....those that become them--were at one time bullied themselves b/c that's where they learned it.
     
  5. latka

    latka Active Member

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    We have no knowlege of the true nature of the relationship. All we can go on is that this man committed a crime and an abuse of his power, period. To speculate that this girl was an equal partner is absurd. The law states that she can't consent. There is a fuduciary relationship that is implied which makes this crime all the worse.
     
  6. flynnibus

    flynnibus Well-Known Member Forum Staff

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    So you can't handle the bluntness of my posts - so you try to get personal about it? Really not a solid tactic.

    If people want me to sugar coat it, and play their mommy for them, then sorry I'm not your man. If you can find error in what I've said, feel free to correct me.

    Find any instance in this thread where that was said - you can't. The only people leaping to that extreme, are the same who leap to the extreme it's impossible to have any blame. Some how in their mind it's all extremes - because someone questions how the girl can't be to blame AT ALL, they are inferring she is all to blame or equally to blame.
     
  7. serendipity

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  8. glencastle

    glencastle The Paterfamilias

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    Sounds like you guys need to lay off the computer and maybe get some physical activity to take off the edge....
     
  9. T8erman

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    I would say that his posts are more analytical than bullyish. Yes, he is blunt often but that is his style.

    And remember, these are written words and quite often it is near impossible to equate emotion or feeling to them. It is the reader who interjects or misinterprets emotion in posts when it is not obvious.
     
  10. serendipity

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    You're probably right. Good advice.
     
  11. serendipity

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    I'll keep that in mind. Thanks for the comment T8erman.
     
  12. Villager

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    And that's what makes our happy hours so interesting! We get to meet the people who post here and find out more about their personalities. Some people have qualities that make a lot more sense once you meet them in person. T8erman, however, is exactly the same: goofy and sarcastic but goodhearted. :) Plus the HHs are so much fun!
     
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    I don't think people post on this forum expecting their words to be scrutinized and thrown back at them, they are merely stating their opinion. There's a difference between expressing an opinion on a forum and submitting a doctoral dissertation for rigorous review. If the standard on this forum is that all posts must survive extensive scrutiny, then we all have to up our game, and this includes Flynnibus. Even his posts can be misunderstood; they are not perfectly crafted. After all, I doubt anyone is dedicating their life to a reading every post in a thread, taking notes on all the meanings, and analyzing all points before rendering their own prized verdict on the subject matter. There are tons of typos, misspellings, and poor grammar, not to mention hastily written ideas that sometimes don't make sense. So we all had better improve our wordsmithing since we will be held accountable for the accuracy and logic of our posts. Please include references, and back up each idea with 3 pertinent details. According to Flynnibus, this is hardball. Don't play if you aren't prepared for some pain.

    My own observation is that this forum is very cliquish. The same people post on any and all subjects, and their chums welcome them and their often ridiculous pratter. Someone new chimes in and they are ignored, or worse "bulllyed" for not following some set of rules determined by the clique. It really is juvenile.
     
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    Oh no! I realize that I have not properly backed up this assertion. I'll put the rest of my life on hold as I research the forum for 10 examples of this accusation. Get back to you all in a few weeks!
     
  15. Villager

    Villager Ashburn Village Resident

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    That can be a problem with message boards (as in life) but I haven't ever felt that way here myself. I feel like there can be some of that in certain topics (politics?) but overall the board seems friendly and a good resource for information and referrals. That doesn't mean someone else cannot feel differently, naturally!
     
  16. Brassy

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    As for pole dancers, why the moral judgment? They are making a buck, at the expense of the lowlife men who have nothing better to do than watch almost naked women. If it weren't for men's sexual depravity there wouldn't be a market for this work. ;)

    That made me hoot and holler really loud. Amen!
     
  17. Brassy

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    Ok so we're now getting off topic here. Time to possibly close out this thread, I beleive.
     
  18. Mr. Linux

    Mr. Linux Senior Member & Moderator Forum Staff

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    Thread has been closed; postings have gotten very off topic and ridiculous...
     
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