Need Advice Parenting - Anyone "Sleep Train"

i wouldn't change a thing on how I did it- The Boy felt secure b/c i would always come in and soothe him- but not picking him up established the rule that bedtime was bedtime, unless something was wrong. it was wonderful to get to the point of going in to check on him, he would be awake, i'd hang with him awhile, and he would not cry when i left. the goal was making him feel good and happy in his crib, not punished or abandoned, AND establising ground rules early in life, and helping him feel independent.

i recognize fully that what worked for US does not work for everyone. I DO believe babies can manipulate adult behavior at around 4 months old. there is no one recipe- every baby is different and every parent's needs and levels are too.

 

I would recommend reading the Baby Whisperer. It is an AWESOME book and it discusses sleep issues. It worked for my 2nd and 3rd children who are great sleepers and never cried more than about 5 minutes since they learned how to soothe themselves. It really wasn't even a cry, more of a moan that was there way of saying "I am tired, leave me alone."

 

if you don't agree w/ dr. sears, you don't agree w/ dr. sears. no need to get upset. just don't read his stuff.

exactly!! my baby did nothing but cry from night one. i cried with him. what was i doing wrong? what was wrong with him? why didn't he ever sleep? all i could think of was my sister's/brother's/friend's babies who slept all the time with little effort. i didn't find relief until i read the type of advice i passed on earlier. finally...i was normal, he was normal and i found a new approach.

 

I like everyone's thoughts. Against my own advice I've read a few books lately and they all either counter each other or make me feel like a bad parent. I noticed that anomole w/the 1st child, skipped the books (and parenting mags) for the 2nd...I seem to be regressing:rolleyes3:

Thanks for the thoughts, I'm not terribly stressed about it...I'm just sleepy :indiff2: