I'm very happy to hear about your nephew. He sounds like he's progressing well through therapy. Sadly, not all autistic children are as high-functioning as your nephew sounds to be. There is a lot of gray matter in the Autism Spectrum, and there are some children who regardless of how early intervention was introduced, number of therapists he/she relies upon, or the age of the child, are not vocal. Some children self-stim constantly, despite the amount of medication "cocktails" tried. Kids can be extremely violent toward others and/or themselves. Some find a quiet treehouse to be the only space that makes sense, that soothes and comforts the mind and body so much that the parents, who screwed-up with the HOA, plead the community for help, despite what may come out of the mouths of what seem to be strangers rather than neighbors. There seemed to be more folks blasting this poor guy rather than helping him, even suggesting he uses his child's autism as an excuse to break the rules. My apologies, MANY people who don't have kids with autism just don't "get it". You do, because of your nephew. Sadly, that's a very small minority.